Many romantically inclined individuals spend hours fantasizing about their future weddings, often long before they’ve found the person they hope to share it all with. They dream up the perfect wedding gown, the beautiful flowers, the magical honeymoon getaway. (It’s not called ‘the Pinterest generation for nothing!)
However, very few of them also spend time contemplating the legal ramifications of, metaphorically speaking, smothering that same spouse with a pillow about ten years down the line. Yet that’s where so many people end up, years into their marriage. Sitting across the dinner table from a stranger, biting back years of scathing retorts and furious witticisms, wondering if it’s really worth going to prison for stabbing their spouse with a dinner fork.
I think we can all agree that it’s not a happy or healthy place to be. So if you’re really there – ready to explode and let the pieces fall where they may, perhaps it’s time to talk about your exit strategy. This can be a very elaborate, or very simple plan for your future. Though whatever route you choose, there are a couple of pointers we suggest that you consider:
- First, get yourself a good therapist. Or counselor, or priest. Someone you can talk openly to, who will listen and help you cope with whatever you’re struggling with. You will need someone to provide you with helpful suggestions and information as you prepare. A therapist, especially a good one, will be able to suggest other professionals to help you with other aspects of this process ( financial advice, legal help…etc) and also assist you in confronting your emotions and finding healthy coping skills. After all, this may get worse before it gets better.
- Don’t tie up any of your capital if possible, and don’t make any major purchases. Buying another home, a recreational vehicle or even just a new living room furniture set that will need paying off, is unwise. Divorces can be very costly and the more cash you have available will mean the less debt (and interest) you have to pay off, the better.
- Consider your future career and earning potential. Regardless of whether you’ll be likely to get spousal support or have to pay it, you’ll need all the earning power you can get. So if you’ve been giving any thought to finishing up that degree or getting some technical training which would allow you a potential income upgrade in the future, then now is the time to do it.
- Discuss your concerns with a divorce lawyer. Ask them if they have any other suggestions that may help you to prepare and be ready for what lies ahead. An experienced family law attorney will be able to provide you with a good idea of what the process involves, how long it will take, and how much it will cost. Obviously, there are things that crop up along the way that may influence this projection, but a skilled attorney will be able to prepare you by explaining important factors in your divorce. Things like child support payments, parenting time schedules and asset division.
Like Benjamin Franklin once said, “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” So don’t set yourself up to fail. Come in and talk to one of our skilled family lawyers today. We can help you prepare your exit strategy, and answer all of your questions about divorce in Michigan. Call 517 866 1000, or stop by our conveniently located office on Waverly Rd in Lansing. We are here to help.