In 1972, sociologist Jesse Shirley Bernard put forward the theory that within each marriage there are two separate marriages – the husband’s marriage and the wife’s marriage, and that the husband’s marriage is invariably better than his wife’s. These were controversial claims at the time that they were made, and met with much resistance.…

  Most couples, when planning for a future with children, spend a great deal of time preparing for sleepless nights, dirty diapers, and toys underfoot. They read up on the safest car seats, the latest crib designs, and investigate pediatricians with more thoroughness than an online data-miner. But the one aspect of their future family…

  There are few things more awful for a married individual, than discovering that their spouse was cheating on them. However, once the affair has been exposed the biggest issue is going to be deciding how to deal with the fall-out. Do you get divorced or try to make it work? If you stay together,…

  In the first and second sections of this series on fighting the right way in your marriage, we looked at the first five items on our list of ways to make fighting a constructive process, instead of a destructive one. Marital fighting is normal, and can even be healthy for a relationship. The difference,…

  In the previous segment we talked about the importance of fighting in a productive way that is the least harmful to your marriage. If you didn’t read it, and aren’t sure why a marriage needs “fighting rules” in order to avoid divorce, we suggest you go back and read this. We discussed the first…

  In the previous two part series on things people wished they had known before getting divorced, one of the things we mentioned was fighting. Fighting is often viewed as the cause of a failed relationship, but as we pointed out, it isn’t fighting that makes marriages fail, it’s how you fight that matters. So…

  In this two part series we are looking at some of the more common reasons people’s marriages end up in divorce court. Often it’s issues that start small and seem to be ordinary, everyday problems. But like so many things in life, if you don’t deal with them, they become major problems. Problems that…

  In the first article in this two part series on avoiding divorce in your second marriage, we looked at the first three items on our list. Don’t remember them? Here’s a quick refresher: In order to avoid becoming another divorce statistic you and your spouse should 1) Make time to be together, 2) Focus…

  The idea that you could get marriage help from your divorce attorney may seem strange, but in truth, there is no better place. After all, we have talked to thousands of couples over the years whose marriages have failed, and we have noticed certain common themes along the way.   For example, couples whose…