It’s a rare thing to find a divorce that doesn’t cause stress and upheaval in people’s lives. So with that in mind, it would probably be fair to say that almost all divorces are messy to some degree. However, some are much tougher than others. And if your divorce is one of those that drags on for ages, or is full of bitterness and rage, then you’re going to need all the help you can get to survive the process with your sanity intact. So here is our quick and easy guide to six things everyone should keep in mind while getting a divorce:
1. Prioritize your mental health
Whether you get a therapist to talk to during your divorce, or you simply schedule regular get-togethers with a sympathetic friend who’s a good listener, make sure you prioritize your metal health during this time. Vent your frustrations, get all your concerns and anxieties off your chest, and don’t bottle up your feelings. Cry if you need to, express your anger, and allow yourself to feel your pain. In the end, it will mean you come out of this entire process healthier and more balanced.
2. Make time for relaxation
Tensions and stress have a profound effect on your physical health as well as your mental health. So you need to care for your body as well as your mind during a divorce. There are lots of good ways to unwind when the anxieties of this process start getting the better of you. You could enjoy a bubble bath, take a nap, or read a good book. Or if you prefer mindful movement, practice yoga at home or plan mellow walks in the park with a friend. Just avoid using alcohol, marijuana, or other drugs as your method of relaxation. Substance abuse might feel good in the moment, but it can lead to major long-term problems.
3. Let go of blame and shame
It’s important to acknowledge the mistakes you’ve made in order to grow and move on in life, but there’s a difference between being self aware, and beating yourself up. Constantly focusing on your own mistakes, or revisiting the guilt and shame you may feel for the failure of your marriage won’t help you heal or move forward in a healthy way. So make a point of keeping your mind on the positives. Focus on what you hope to achieve in your future. Envision a healthier, freer you, and then work on keeping your mind on what you need to do to achieve that. When feelings of shame or guilt creep up on you, tell yourself that you deserve happiness and that you have the power to change your situation. Because you do.
Make sure you get help from divorce lawyers who understand
Join us next time for the other three tips you need to keep in mind if you want to make it out of this divorce with your sanity intact and your future brighter. Until then, if you’re considering divorce, or you have questions about what the process involves, call The Kronzek Firm at 866 766 5245. Our compassionate and hard-working family law attorneys can help with every aspect of your Michigan divorce, from child custody and parenting time schedules to alimony and even personal protection orders. Don’t try to do this alone. Get help from someone who knows what you’re up against, and can make a difference.