Welcome back and thanks for coming back to wrap this discussion up with us here at The Kronzek Firm. In the previous two articles, we looked at a whole list of factors that can impact a person’s risk of divorce, including getting married young, low income, and having kids before you get hitched. But believe it or not, there’s more. So stick around and we’ll share the last few factors with you.
Living together before marriage is a risk:
Despite the fact that this is a well-documented factor in divorces, people are always surprised by it. After all, wouldn’t living together first help people know if they’re compatible, thereby reducing their chances of divorce? You would think so, but it doesn’t seem to work that way. Lots of people who live together before marriage still get divorced.
For many couples who live together before marriage, the fact that marriage doesn’t change anything about their relationship after the fact can reinforce the idea that it’s “only a piece of paper”. This mindset, which reduces the ‘specialness’ of marriage, makes it easier to pursue divorce when they’re unhappy. This means that people who live together are at a greater risk for divorce.
Low self-esteem creates problems:
Having low self-esteem will have a huge impact on the health of any long term relationship you’re in, so it makes sense that your marriage will suffer if you don’t believe in yourself and your own worth. Mental health experts say this is because people with low self-esteem are constantly worried that their partner will find someone better, which can lead to unfounded suspicions and mistrust.
Believing that, deep down, you’re not worth your partner’s time, will put a burden on them and on your relationship. If you want your marriage to have a better chance of surviving, find ways to address your personal insecurities before they ruin your relationship. Get some counseling, read books on boosting your self-esteem, or research ways to boost your self-worth online. In the long term, this will help you and your relationships.
Lack of mentorship increases risk of divorce:
Just like anything else in life, marriage has good times and rough times. And the only way you’ll ever make it through the rough times is to get help from someone who’s walked that road before you. However, for people who don’t have access to someone that can provide a good example of what a successful long-term relationship looks like, opportunities to give up on your marriage are much higher.
Having a mentor who can be there to listen when times are tough, and provide sound relationships advice and guidance when the marriage encounters stormy seas is invaluable. People with no access to good examples and helpful mentorship have a higher instance of divorce. So if you want your marriage to survive, you may want to find someone in a happy, long term marriage you can call when you need advice. It can make a big difference.
Sometimes, despite your best efforts, a marriage doesn’t survive.
And when that happens, you need help. So if you’re considering ending your marriage, or you’re wondering what it all involves, call us at 866 766 5245. At The Kronzek Firm, our skilled and experienced family lawyers can answer your questions, explain exactly what you can expect, and help you through every stage of the process. We’re available 24/7, including nights and weekends. Don’t leave your future to chance.