Many people in unhappy marriages have asked themselves that question at some point or another, but the answers are rarely as straightforward as we’d like. Relationships are complicated, and especially if you’ve been with your spouse for many years, it can be very hard to end your marriage and start all over again.
Over the years we’ve sat with many clients who’ve wondered about this exact question – is it time to call it quits? So we’ve accumulated a few tips along the way to help people decide if their relationship can be saved (assuming that’s what they want) or if it’s time to part ways. Let’s take a look at some of the ways you can tell whether it’s time to stay, or to go…
Signs it’s probably over (or it should be!):
- Your spouse is physically abusive. Domestic violence rarely “gets better”. If your spouse hurts you physically in any way, whether it’s slapping, punching, kicking or any other form of assault, you are in danger and you need to leave. Also, make sure you call The Kronzek Firm for advice on how to handle your Personal Protective Order.
- Your spouse is a narcissist. If your spouse suffers from narcissism, your relationship was doomed from the start and you need to get out as soon as possible. Narcissists can’t be ‘cured’, and your relationship will never be a real or fulfilling one.
- Your spouse is emotionally or verbally abusive. Whether it’s through insults, demeaning comments, gaslighting, or any other form of harmful behavior that erodes your self esteem and damages your sense of self worth, you aren’t going to be happy in this relationship. The sooner you leave (and get some therapy) the sooner you can begin to heal and move on.
- Your spouse is cheating and won’t stop. Not all affairs signal the end of a marriage. Some people are able to recover after an infidelity, but for that to happen, the affair has to end. If your spouse is cheating and won’t stop, you should get out. If they can’t respect you enough to stay faithful, what makes you think they respect you enough to work on your relationship?
- You spouse refuses to acknowledge any problems. Some people will refuse to address issues, no matter how big or problematic they become. In a marriage, this refusal to address problems, or discuss issues and look for solutions, means nothing will ever change. So if you’re unhappy now you should end it, because it won’t fix itself.
If any of these red flags are popping up in your relationship, then it’s probably time to call it quits. (if fact, it was probably time to get out a long time ago!) Join us next time for a look at some signs that your relationship might feel like it’s falling apart, but might be salvageable after all.
If it’s time to call it quits, don’t do it alone!
Some relationships are easily salvageable, some require a lot of tending, and some are so far gone that there’s nothing you can do but set it on fire and run the other way. If that last option sounds like your reality, then call The Kronzek Firm asap at 866 766 5245 and get the right help.
Our skilled divorce lawyers have been helping the people of Michigan through every aspect of their divorces for decades now, and we can help you too. It may sound scary, and you may be intimidated by the process, but you’re not alone. We’re here to help.