We get it. It’s the most exciting thing that’s happened to you in ages! The chemistry was so unexpected, and the sex is out of this world! It’s like a drug, and you can’t seem to stop yourself from going back again and again, despite the fact that you keep promising this will be the last time. But it never is.
So now you’re trying to figure out how to make it last forever. You know you’re going to get caught eventually, and the fall out from that discovery will be a huge mess, so you’re considering just divorcing your spouse and starting over with your affair partner. After all, you guys are perfect together right? Well, maybe not…
Affairs rarely translate into healthy, lasting marriages.
Current statistics show that over 75% of marriages that began as affairs, don’t survive past the five year mark. And why is that? There are many reasons why affair partners don’t make good spouses, and why affairs don’t make for good marital foundations. Let’s take a look at why:
You won’t be able to trust your partner!
Think about it…. You’re a cheater and so are they. And if they (or you) can cheat once, then you can do it again. Which means that if the two of you decide to tie the knot, you’ll be getting hitched to someone who you can’t really trust. And yes, we’ve heard that argument before as well – they love you and you love them and you’re perfect together. Are you, though?
Think about it, you felt this way about your spouse when you asked them to marry you all those years ago and look at where you are now! Things change, and not always for the better. This relationship started off with a lot of deceit. So it isn’t likely to go on and become a strong, healthy marriage.
Your affair doesn’t translate into reality!
Your spouse sees your dirty underwear on the bathroom floor, smells your morning breath when you first get up, and deals with the dried toothpaste you leave in the sink at night. But your affair partner doesn’t have to put up with any of the mundane (and unpleasant) aspects of daily life. Which can make your relationship seem all moonlight as roses.
Part of what makes affairs exciting is that your time together is occasional, and illicit. And the primary focus of your time together is sexual. When two people live together, exposed to one another’s quirks and idiosyncrasies, life can seem a lot less… exciting. Which is exactly what’ll happen if you marry your affair partner!
Getting divorced can be a very difficult process.
Join us next time, for more reasons why you shouldn’t marry your affair partner. Until then, if you or a loved one are considering divorce, and you need help figuring out what your future will look like after it’s all said and done, call us at 866 766 5245. The skilled family law attorneys at the Kronzek Firm have helped countless people in mid-Michigan through their divorces, and we can help you too.