How to Move on After Your Divorce (Pt 2)

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You have a lot of control over what your life will be like after your divorce, so start making thoughtful choices for your future…

Welcome back. In this two-part series we’ve been looking at what you can do to ensure that after your divorce is over, you get the healthy and fulfilling future you’re dreaming of. But as we pointed out in the previous article, divorce is a very tough time, and no one walks away unscathed. You might benefit from help to process your feelings, and you will be glad you made smart choices with your money and even started a new hobby. But what else could you do to ensure a better future? You could…

Get some exercise

There are many reasons why exercise after a divorce is a good idea. In addition to the many health benefits (which we could all use more of), there are psychological and emotional benefits to be had as well. Exercise releases dopamine and serotonin into your brain, both of which play a part in making you happier. But there are other benefits as well, like getting out of the house, meeting new people and making new friends, and feeling better physically. In fact, unless your GP tells you not to, there are loads of reasons to start (or continue) a regular exercise routine after your divorce.

Start new traditions

One of the difficulties people often face after a divorce is the holidays. All those traditions you had surrounding Christmas and Thanksgiving and the 4th of July won’t be the same anymore, now that you and your ex have parted ways. But instead of viewing those times as losses, look at them as opportunities. You have a whole new life, so there’s no reason not to start new traditions to go along with it. If you used to spend the 4th with your husband’s family, spend it with your loved ones instead. Invite your other single friends over for Christmas dessert, or enjoy Thanksgiving at a favorite restaurant with your kids. Just because you’re divorced, doesn’t mean your holidays shouldn’t be wonderful!

Choose to be happy

Yes we know, it sounds cliche, but it’s actually true. You have a lot of control over your own moods and feelings, although learning to control them can take some practice. So instead of heading into your new life with a load of resentment and bitterness that flares up every time you think about your ex, work on freeing yourself from those toxic emotions. Whether you choose meditation, prayer, therapy, or some other method, you can benefit enormously from forgiving your ex (and anyone else who hurt you during your marriage.) Carrying all those toxic feelings around with you won’t help you move on and be emotionally and physically healthier in the future.     

Divorce is hard, but you’re not alone!

We get it – divorce is a massive shift in how you live life, and it’s easy to find yourself floundering when the dust has settled. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to live your best life after it’s all said and done. And while we can’t really help you with the aftermath (besides providing tips like these), we can help you with the process itself. Just call 866 766 5245 and talk to one of our skilled and experienced family law attorneys. We’re available 24/7 and can help you with every aspect of your divorce, from asset division and child custody to alimony and child support.